Social, emotional and
behavior skills
Self awareness
· We are aware that feelings, thoughts and behaviors
refer to different things.
· We are aware that our feelings vary in intensity
· We know that our feelings are acceptable but that not
all behavior are acceptable
· We recognize that context affects the acceptability of
different behaviors
· We recognize we can have conflicting feelings
· We are aware that our feelings affect our behaviors
· We are aware that our thoughts affect our feelings and
behaviors
· We label and talk about feelings using shared
understandings
· We can recognize a feeling in ourselves from external
and internal cues
Empathy
· We understand all people can feel the same range of
emotions
· We know that different people will feel different
emotions in the same situation
· We understand that our
actions affect other people-we can make them feel better or worse
· We can use ‘cues’ to guess other people’s emotions and
to imagine how we would feel if we were them
· We can take on another person’s point of view
· We can distinguish between accidental and deliberate
actions
· We are able to recognize situations in which we may
need to hide our feelings to avoid upsetting others (and those where we should
not)
· We are able to support other people, e.g. by making
them feel happy and using ‘good listening’ when they share their
feelings-demonstrating the skill of ‘active listening’
Managing feelings
· We understand the difference between ‘impulsive’ and
thinking’ behavior
· We are able to wait for what we want (delaying gratification)
· We know that our thoughts can alter our feelings and
behavior
· We know how to calm down/relax
· We can talk about/share our feelings
· We use positive self-talk/visioning (rehearsing events
in the mind)
· We are aware of strategies to solve social and other
problems which immediately affect us
Self-motivation
· We know what short- and long-term goals are
· We are able to break goals down into smaller steps
· We know our own strengths and what leads to good
outcomes for us
· We recognize what is helpful/unhelpful to us in
achieving our goals
· We practice sustained effort and learning
· We have the ability to anticipate obstacles and plan
for them
· We are prepared to take responsibility where
appropriate
· We are able to recognize excuses and the ways we
sometimes try to absolve ourselves of responsibility
· We are confident enough to take appropriate risks
· We are able to tolerate frustration, e.g. by keeping
the big picture in mind – believing that we can get there – using
positive self talk and visualization
· We have a range of strategies for ‘bouncing back’ from
mistakes and setbacks
· We are able to enjoy and celebrate our achievements
Social skills
· We take turns and share
· We understand and use non-verbal communication
effectively
· We are able to make our communication appropriate to
the context
· We are able to talk about feelings effectively
· We respond appropriately to others’ emotions
· We know how to be good listener, using the skills of
active listening
· We use ‘ I feel statements’ instead of blame
· We use assertive language / assertiveness skills
· We use skills of negotiations with others
· We know how to compete fairly
· We can deal respectfully with confrontation and have
conflict-management skills
· We know how to apologize and make amends (making up
with people)
· We know how to be sensitive when giving feedback to
others
Source: Department for
Education and Skills (Sept. 2004:11-12). Primary National Strategy. UK
KETINGGIAN PERIBADI
AMALAN POSITIF
· Teguh beriman dan
bertaqwa dalam setiap tindakan
· Menyempurnakan tugas dan
amanah
· Bersifat dalam
menjalankan tanggungjawab
· Berilmu dan
berpengetahuan luas
· Mengutamakan keadilan
dalam setiap perbuatan
· Sedia berkorban
· Berlumba-lumba dalam
membuat kebajikan
· Kemas dalam pakaian,
pemikiran dan tindakan
· Bersifat penyayang
· Bersifat sabar dan teguh
menghadapi cabaran
· Bertimbang rasa tetapi
tegas
· Bersopan santun serta
sederhana dalam ketakutan
· Taat setia dan patuh
kepada arahan
· Bersyukur dan menghargai
kebaikan
· Bersih daripada sifat
dengki
· Bertanggungjawab dan
sedia berbakti
· Jimat cermat dalam segala
aspek
· Tertib dan baik budi
bicara
· Cergas dan cekap dalam menjalankan tugas
· Cekal menghadapi cabaran
· Berkerjasama dan saling
hormat menghormati
· Berani dan berpendirian
teguh
AMALAN NEGATIF
· Selalu berpura-pura dalam tindakan
· Bersikap sombong dan suka menunjuk-nunjuk
· Sukar untuk membuat kebajikan
· Suka mengumpat dan memfitnah rakan sejawat
· Tamak dalam mengejar pangkat dan kedudukan
· Gopoh dalam bertindak
· Mengampu untuk mendapat pujian dan sanjungan
· Mungkir janji
· Suka menghina dan merendahkan usaha orang lain
· Pemarah dan tidak sabar
· Khianat dalam melaksanakan tugas
· Berdendam serta hasad dengki
· Bersungguh-sungguh mempertahankan kelemahan dan
keburukan diri
· Suka membangkang tanpa cadangan untuk memperbaikinya
· Mementingkan diri sendiri
· Lembab dan malas berusaha
· Pengotor dan selekeh dalam pembawaan
· Tidak boleh dipercayai dan tidak amanah
· Tidak bertimbang rasa dan mementingkan diri
· Suka membuat janji palsu
· Bersikap birokratik dan autokratik dalam membuat
keputusan
Sumber: INTAN (1994). Citra
Karya: Falsafah, Nilai dan Etika
Dalam Perkhidmatan Awam. Kuala Lumpur.
KEKUATAN SIFAT BAIK HATI
AMALAN POSITIF
· Bersopan santun setiap masa
· Pemaaf dan berhemah tinggi
· Simpati kepada kesusahaan dan masalah orang lain
· Ikhlas dan bertimbang rasa
· Pemurah dalam usaha kebaikan
· Mudah mesra dan berkerjasama
· Merendah diri
· Berbudi mulia
· Boleh menerima teguran
· Berlaku adil dalam semua tindakan
· Sedia menerima cadangan
AMALAN NEGATIF
· Kasar dan kurang sopan
· Berdendam bila tidak dapat sesuatu kemahuan
· Bersikap tidak peduli terhadap teguran dan nasihat
· Tidak bertimbang rasa
· Mementingkan diri sendiri
· Sombong, bongkak dan membesar-besar diri
· Bermuka-muka
· Cepat menghukum tanpa siasatan
· Cepat menuduh tanpa siasatan
· Suka mencaci
· Tidak boleh menerima kritikan
· Cepat membuat kritikan
· Suka menghina orang
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