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Social, emotional and behavior skills
Self awareness

·      We are aware that feelings, thoughts and behaviors refer to different things.
·      We are aware that our feelings vary in intensity
·      We know that our feelings are acceptable but that not all behavior are acceptable
·      We recognize that context affects the acceptability of different behaviors
·      We recognize we can have conflicting feelings
·      We are aware that our feelings affect our behaviors
·      We are aware that our thoughts affect our feelings and behaviors
·      We label and talk about feelings using shared understandings
·      We can recognize a feeling in ourselves from external and internal cues

Empathy

·      We understand all people can feel the same range of emotions
·      We know that different people will feel different emotions in the same situation
·      We understand that our  actions affect other people-we can make them feel  better or worse
·      We can use ‘cues’ to guess other people’s emotions and to imagine how we would feel if we were them
·      We can take on another person’s point of view
·      We can distinguish between accidental and deliberate actions
·      We are able to recognize situations in which we may need to hide our feelings to avoid upsetting others (and those where we should not)
·      We are able to support other people, e.g. by making them feel happy and using ‘good listening’ when they share their feelings-demonstrating the skill of ‘active listening’

Managing feelings

·      We understand the difference between ‘impulsive’ and thinking’ behavior
·      We are able to wait for what we want (delaying gratification)
·      We know that our thoughts can alter our feelings and behavior
·      We know how to calm down/relax
·      We can talk about/share our feelings
·      We use positive self-talk/visioning (rehearsing events in the mind)
·      We are aware of strategies to solve social and other problems which immediately affect us



Self-motivation

·      We know what short- and long-term goals are
·      We are able to break goals down into smaller steps
·      We know our own strengths and what leads to good outcomes for us
·      We recognize what is helpful/unhelpful to us in achieving our goals
·      We practice sustained effort and learning
·      We have the ability to anticipate obstacles and plan for them
·      We are prepared to take responsibility where appropriate
·      We are able to recognize excuses and the ways we sometimes try to absolve ourselves of responsibility
·      We are confident enough to take appropriate risks
·      We are able to tolerate frustration, e.g. by keeping the big picture in mindbelieving that we can get there – using positive self talk and visualization
·      We have a range of strategies for ‘bouncing back’ from mistakes and setbacks
·      We are able to enjoy and celebrate our achievements

Social skills

·      We take turns and share
·      We understand and use non-verbal communication effectively
·      We are able to make our communication appropriate to the context
·      We are able to talk about feelings effectively
·      We respond appropriately to others’ emotions
·      We know how to be good listener, using the skills of active listening
·      We use ‘ I feel statements’ instead of  blame
·      We use assertive language / assertiveness skills
·      We use skills of negotiations with others
·      We know how to compete fairly
·      We can deal respectfully with confrontation and have conflict-management skills
·      We know how to apologize and make amends (making up with people)
·      We know how to be sensitive when giving feedback to others


Source: Department for Education and Skills (Sept. 2004:11-12). Primary National Strategy. UK




KETINGGIAN PERIBADI

AMALAN POSITIF

·      Teguh beriman dan bertaqwa dalam setiap tindakan
·      Menyempurnakan tugas dan amanah
·      Bersifat dalam menjalankan tanggungjawab
·      Berilmu dan berpengetahuan luas
·      Mengutamakan keadilan dalam setiap perbuatan
·      Sedia berkorban
·      Berlumba-lumba dalam membuat kebajikan
·      Kemas dalam pakaian, pemikiran dan tindakan
·      Bersifat penyayang
·      Bersifat sabar dan teguh menghadapi cabaran
·      Bertimbang rasa tetapi tegas
·      Bersopan santun serta sederhana dalam ketakutan
·      Taat setia dan patuh kepada arahan
·      Bersyukur dan menghargai kebaikan
·      Bersih daripada sifat dengki
·      Bertanggungjawab dan sedia berbakti
·      Jimat cermat dalam segala aspek
·      Tertib dan baik budi bicara
·      Cergas  dan cekap dalam menjalankan tugas
·      Cekal menghadapi cabaran
·      Berkerjasama dan saling hormat menghormati
·      Berani dan berpendirian teguh






AMALAN NEGATIF

·      Selalu berpura-pura dalam tindakan
·      Bersikap sombong dan suka menunjuk-nunjuk
·      Sukar untuk membuat kebajikan
·      Suka mengumpat dan memfitnah rakan sejawat
·      Tamak dalam mengejar pangkat dan kedudukan
·      Gopoh dalam bertindak
·      Mengampu untuk mendapat pujian dan sanjungan
·      Mungkir janji
·      Suka menghina dan merendahkan usaha orang lain
·      Pemarah dan tidak sabar
·      Khianat dalam melaksanakan tugas
·      Berdendam serta hasad dengki
·      Bersungguh-sungguh mempertahankan kelemahan dan keburukan diri
·      Suka membangkang tanpa cadangan untuk memperbaikinya
·      Mementingkan diri sendiri
·      Lembab dan malas berusaha
·      Pengotor dan selekeh dalam pembawaan
·      Tidak boleh dipercayai dan tidak amanah
·      Tidak bertimbang rasa dan mementingkan diri
·      Suka membuat janji palsu
·      Bersikap birokratik dan autokratik dalam membuat keputusan


Sumber: INTAN (1994). Citra Karya: Falsafah, Nilai dan Etika
              Dalam Perkhidmatan Awam. Kuala Lumpur.



















KEKUATAN SIFAT BAIK HATI

AMALAN POSITIF

·      Bersopan santun setiap masa
·      Pemaaf dan berhemah tinggi
·      Simpati kepada kesusahaan dan masalah orang lain
·      Ikhlas dan bertimbang rasa
·      Pemurah dalam usaha kebaikan
·      Mudah mesra dan berkerjasama
·      Merendah diri
·      Berbudi mulia
·      Boleh menerima teguran
·      Berlaku adil dalam semua tindakan
·      Sedia menerima cadangan

AMALAN NEGATIF

·      Kasar dan kurang sopan
·      Berdendam bila tidak dapat sesuatu kemahuan
·      Bersikap tidak peduli terhadap teguran dan nasihat
·      Tidak bertimbang rasa
·      Mementingkan diri sendiri
·      Sombong, bongkak dan membesar-besar diri
·      Bermuka-muka
·      Cepat menghukum tanpa siasatan
·      Cepat menuduh tanpa siasatan
·      Suka mencaci
·      Tidak boleh menerima kritikan
·      Cepat membuat kritikan
·      Suka menghina orang


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